So your heart is pulsating pretty fast and you are getting a tad nervous but is elated because this is your first date with the girl you are interested in for quite awhile. You are very excited and hoping that there will be a second date, then a third and ultimately can formally claim her as your girlfriend.
The question is, are you seriously ready for this exciting moment of your life? This is because if you are not readily prepared to do so, you could very well ruin your first date and may never get a second chance to date her again.
So here are some first tips on things you should and should not do during this precarious moment. Therefore do put on your best behaviour as there are rules and restrictions on how you should act and behave on your first date or even subsequent dates.
The most common first date mistake is that too many guys go out on dates spend so much time worrying about getting a second date that they become too uptight and unnatural. Hey, relax and enjoy your moment because women can sense your nervousness and can be repelled by it.
You see, when you are comfortable, it is easier to think clearer and make better choices. This way, you can avoid doing dumb things that can ruin your first date, such as being jittery!
Next, thorough planning for a date is very important, especially so on your first date because she will decide whether to continue dating you from this very first experience. That is why you must choose an activity or activities that you can both enjoy together. If you pick an activity that isn’t fun for the woman you are dating, then you can kiss goodbye to future dates with her.
Don’t go out on your date without taking a refreshing shower and dressed in clean clothes just because you’ve rushed out to meet her immediately after work straight from the office. Women with their maternal instinct like men who can and do take care of themselves. If you have bad hygiene habit or smell horribly, she is going to be nauseated for the rest of the night.
On the other hand, don’t put on too much cologne as this will mask your own natural sexual attraction scent, your human pheromone.
Be confident, outgoing and make decisions regarding the night’s program confidently. Self confidence is a masculine trait that girls adore very much. Women find confident men irresistible! So be one.
Do not grumble about your work or your boss, asking her what to do next or behaving in a nervous anxious manner. Just banter with her as if she is your bosom buddy even though it is only your first date. This will make you look and feel very natural and she will let down her guard and be very comfortable with you.
Men say and do many rude and disgusting things with their male friends without even knowing it because those are your buddies and you do not care about your impression on them. However, some of these things are taboos in the company of girls. If you are rude or disgusting, you are not going to make a good impression on her. If you have to execute bodily functions such as a fart or burp loudly, just make sure that she is oblivious and without a clue.
A very common misconception amongst guys is that girls like men with money to spend. This is usually not true. So if you spend most of the time flashing your cash, credit cards and talking about your finances to impress her, you are making a grave mistake because unless she is going for your money, you are going to bore her to death. And if she is really going after your money, then you are really provoking her to take more of your money when you show off in this way!
Guys being guys, it is our natural instinct to look a little longer than usual when we caught sight of a beautiful girl. Well, be very well guarded about this during your date as most women want a one woman man. If she thinks that she has to compete for your attention, she is going to be a very upset date. So keep your roving eye under check.
If you so happened to bump into your friends while on the date, just say hello to them and then move along. Do not spend all your time hanging out with and talking to them the whole time. Remember, in a date, your time spent is also her time. She is your date for the night, not your friends. Dismissing your buddies so as not to interrupt your date with her shows that time with her is important to you.
If you put her aside to hang with the boys more, then she is very likely to see this as an indicator on how the future will be if she becomes your full fledged girlfriend.
Do understand that being a gentleman is something that will never go out of style, however, the line is very thin on being a gentleman and a wimp. Be a gentleman, not a wussy!
The ultimate don’t on a first date is to make sexual innuendos or be explicit in regards to having sex. If you are only looking for a sexual fling, you may try, but if you are looking to keep her as a girlfriend, don’t even suggest it.
You are not guaranteed sex when you go out on a date, especially the first date, less you come across as a pervert and making sly comments can make your date feel uncomfortable and even irritated. Yes, women enjoy sex too but they hate being expected to give it to you.
Yes, you can act a bit cocky and funny now and then, she will like it because of your sense of humor. Being cocky and funny most of the time is for flirting and picking up girls, but you are not picking her up now as she is your date. However, just be careful about being funny as some jokes and one liners may be cheesy and corny that they may turn her off, especially those with a hint of sex.
So now that you know what to do and what not to do on your first date, then go. Enjoy yourself with her company.
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