Though not all women are the same, a wife usually wants her husband to be a good listener. She also needs a time alone once in a while, a real date with you occasionally, responsible participation in child-rearing on your part, to feel that she is appreciated, to be understood, and to be reminded that she is loved and desired.
Both you and your spouse need to participate in keeping and maintaining your relationship and marriage healthy. A marriage is a combined effort between husband and wife; you need to be aware of her needs to make her happy. Listed herein are the common things that a wife wants from her husband:
Be a good listener
Wives typically desire their husbands to listen to them carefully. Aside from your wife’s friends, she needs someone to talk to about the things that go on in her life, at work or at home, with your kids, and her worries or concerns and achievements. Actively listen and pay attention so she knows you are with her every step of the way no matter what.
Remind her that she is loved and desired for
While you may feel like words are not enough to prove your love for your wife, saying sweet little things that remind her she is loved is what she wants. Say “I love you” when you mean it, not only when you are leaving for work, when going to bed, or after a phone conversation. If you believe it will surprise her, say it to her. An important thing to remember is that she deserves compliments, so if she is wearing a nice dress or has just gotten a new hairdo or anything else she has done, let her know she is admired by you. An apt compliment will be well received.
Of course, being able to understand each other is essential to maintain a healthy relationship, but women in particular want to be understood by their partners. Women can get really difficult to deal with at times, and when that happens, all she wants from you is to understand why she acts the way she does. She wants you to pardon her for being difficult sometimes.
A show of appreciation
In as much as you do, your wife wants to be appreciated with the things she does. No matter how small the accomplishment she has done even at home, she wants to hear you compliment her. Give her praise for cooking a lovely meal and for helping your children with their school work.
Accomplish your share of responsibilities in compliance with your kids
Kids need attention and discipline from both parents. If you are overly lenient with your kids and don’t seem to be too concerned about them, she might want you to behave more responsibly. You are a couple, and she wants you to be her partner and discipline the kids when necessary, and nurture them through play and quality time. It is important that you show her that you are interested in the welfare of your children and are trying to be a responsible dad.
Take her to a date every now and then
With a hectic job and children around, the way you used to spent time with your wife will change dramatically. More than anything else, she needs this from you. Meaningful interactions with you are important to her. Perhaps, what will make her happy is an occasional night out or going to a movie.
This does not connote that she no longer wants to be with you and the kids. With all the responsibilities at home, your wife needs to have a time for herself as well. She may want to spend time with her friends, go shopping alone, or spend time at the salon or spa as her way of relaxing.
Communicate to your spouses and discuss about your marriage/relationship, her wants and needs, and if she’s happy. Through this, both of you will learn about each other’s needs and wants which is essential in keeping you happy and satisfied with your life as a couple. Despite the storms that come and go, after all, you both deserve a good life.
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