Many agree that the family forms the most important unit of the society. No wonder leaders both in the political and religious front spend a lot of time talking about family values. However, we have also known that families can be a source of trauma especially when members aren’t united.
Tags: Family, United family, Tight family, Lasting marriages, relationships
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Step 1: Develop similar value systems The Bible asks: Is it possible for two people to walk together unless they agree? For any family to stand up to the tough times and remain united and peaceful requires that the couples in the marriage have shared values.
Step 2: Be ready to mend broken relationship All families will at one time or another come to some point where relationships are close to breaking. Make it your duty to put effort to mending broken relationships, and you will avoid complete family break-ups.
Step 3: Spend time together. The other way that you can do to keep your family together is to make sure that you spend some time together. Time is one of the most important resources that you will ever share with your family.
Step 4: Listen to one another. Apart from the fact that you need to spend some time together, it is also important that the time you spend together is quality time. Use this time to listen to one another and know what is going on in the lives of family members.
Step 5: Build trust within the family One of the causes of break-ups in many families is the lack of trust among couples. To ensure that a family sticks together at all times, it is necessary to put up mechanisms that will build trust between family members, and making sure that members do not treat each other with suspicion. It is obvious that if in a family people treat each other with suspicion, the family won’t last for long.
Step 6: Develop Respect for one another To make your family stick together, it is important that members of the family have respect for one another. Families whereby the different family members treat each other with respect will definitely stand for long compared with those families which the family members treat each other with disrespect. When the children grow up seeing the children treating each other with a lot of respect, they end up developing the same habit of treating each other with respect.
Step 7: Resolve conflicts away from the kids Ensure that problems are solved away from the children. When the children see that the parents are fighting each other, they will not unite.
Step 8: Develop family rituals These things are unique to your family and are habits that your children should love so much that they wish they could pass the ritual down to their children. This may mean that you have an outing every month or you bond together every Wednesday evening. Whatever you choose to do, ensure that it is something that easily involve everyone in the family.
Tips * To help create family unity, always ensure that conflict between parents is always solved away from the children. This will help prevent putting the children in an awkward position.
Warning * Avoid showing favoritism to one child over the other. This is one thing that really disturbs children. If you want your family to stick together, don’t try to favor one child over the other because that will simply cause division.
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