Whether you are looking for one-night-stands, threesomes, an amazing girlfriend…or whatever, implementing what you’re about to learn will send you on the right path.
However, not doing what I’m about to tell you is one of the main sticking points preventing men from attracting women.
What you are about to learn is probably nothing you haven’t already heard. It, however, is one of the most overlooked skills – especially by guys learning how to attract and be more successful with women.
Before I tell you what this secret is, I am going to share a little story with you. When I first became serious about mastering, what I used to perceive as, the ego bruising “social minefields”, in order to succeed with the women I most wanted, I befriended many guys trying, as well, to get this area of their life handled.
Some of these guys considered themselves to be scared little men. Others thought of themselves as full blown Casanovas. And a few felt like Average Joes. Some were amazing at quickly getting women into bed; while a few, unfortunately, couldn’t, even if their life depended on it, talk to a woman.
All of us became very close and formed a squad with one goal in mind: to become more successful with women. I made a lot of good friends, and witnessed a few of them do some amazing things, ranging from making out with women in bars to sporadically having sex with a woman they had just met.
In spite of what looked to be great success, there was a dark, discouraging cloud hovering over us: none of us had any female friends. Some of the group had female friends, but got rid of them, with the idea that they would take away time from picking up women. A few had never had a female friend. When we went out we never were just hanging out. Our only goal was to create attraction in women. We did care one bit about interacting with women we felt weren’t attracted to us. When going into a bar, women could feel our hunter energy, a pack wolves waiting to attack. Even if one of us made out with a woman, the night would usually end with just us guys.
Now, before breaking down the reasons for making at least five female friends, I’m going to get crystal clear about what I mean by “making friends with women”.
If you’re someone who sits around with their female friends, giving each other hot pink manicures and pedicures, listening to their troubles with men, you’re in big trouble. Being friends with women is not about you playing the big passive bottom in their “bitter at men” gang bang. The only exception to this is if you are gay. My point: being friends with women is about treating them exactly how you treat your guy friends. Women know you are not their girlfriends. When you act like you are their girlfriend, they interpret it as an unconvincing pretense used to get into their pants.
To recap: being friends with women is about acting the way you would around your guy friends.
Here are 3 reasons for making friends with women.
Reason # 1: You Will Be More Relaxed Around Women In General:
Men who don’t have female friends are usually nervous and uncomfortable around women, causing women to feel uncomfortable around them. When a woman picks this sort of man up by the common scruff of his neck, and mercilessly tears him apart, like a cheaply wrought rag doll, he becomes anxious and uncomfortable in his own skin. This results in her becoming nervous and uncomfortable. In her book, this will take you straight to the top of the Creep-O-Meter.
Trying to make women feel comfortable around you when you are uncomfortable in your own skin is usually a losing battle – and often times leads to them feeling even more uncomfortable.
The biggest part of making women feel comfortable is being comfortable in your own skin and around women. The quickest road I know to becoming comfortable in your own skin and around women is to make female friends.
Reason # 2: You Will No Longer Need An Endless Supply Of Pick Up Lines And Memorized Material To Be Successful With Women:
I know some guys who are amazing at approaching women and initially getting women attracted to them but as soon as they run out of rehearsed material, things take a terrible turn for the worst as they collapse completely. One common scenario is that a guy will meet a woman and succeed in generating the emotion inside her of wanting, chasing, and reaching for more of him through using memorized material. She willingly gives him her number. When he calls she has jamais vu (jamais vu is the opposite of déjà vu: it is the illusion that you are encountering something you have already experienced for the first time). It is like she is talking to a total stranger and the emotion of her feeling attraction towards him is long gone. Since he doesn’t know what to do outside the realm of using memorized material, she treats him like a random telemarketer trying to solicit her, cutting the phone call unusually short and hanging up. The problem is that this guy neither understands women nor knows how to act around them. One of the best ways for developing these skills is by being friends with women – especially the type you strive to succeed with. After talking to a woman for a few minutes you’ll know exactly how to produce attraction with her, without having to use rehearsed material. I’m not against using memorized material – in fact, I’m a fan of it. But if you can only interact with women using memorized material, you are in big trouble.
Reason # 3: Women Know When A Man Is Not Frequently Around Other Women:
Women are psychic when comes to knowing whether or not a man is frequently around women. Women assume that if other females hang around you, then you must be a cool guy. They assume, likewise, that if no females hang around you, something might be wrong with you – bad thing! This is pretty much herd mentality – go figure!
One of the major problems with a lot of the material on how to attract women is that it only focuses on making you feel more confident about yourself. As, alas, you might know, you can do all the affirmations in the world, but if you don’t have the social skills to attract women, your out of luck.
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